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Tuesday, 5 July 2011
Beauty Booster
Vitamin C aids the absorption of vitamins and minerals. Include citrus in nutrient-rich meals, take your daily supplements with a glass of orange juice, or pop a lemon slice in your green tea to get maximum benefits.
Friday, 1 July 2011
Light and Loveliness
I had to share this wonderful quote by Roald Dahl that I read in this month's issue of Vogue:
Another enduring impression, for entirely the opposite reason, is the worst piece of advice I was ever given: after an encounter that left me feeling a little low, someone said to me, "The problem is you're too nice. If you want to get on in life, you need to stop being so nice." That sentiment was enough to jolt me out of my malaise - "stop being nice"? It's so easy to get cynical and jaded in a world that encourages us to get ahead, and even in that moment I had no intention of being a part of that cycle. As far as I'm concerned, there aren't enough 'nice' people in the world; I hold those precious few very close to me because they make me want to be a better person.
One of my own defining traits is a child-like perspective of life that I've retained - my enjoyment of simple pleasures, my sense of humor, my sense of right and wrong, my discernment of character. Though not always practical, my inner child is an aspect of my character that I've been consciously protective of in my adulthood because it affords me a simplicity of outlook of which we can be so easily robbed. It doesn't necessarily make me a better person, but it does make me happy when my enthusiasm rubs off on others - it makes me feel like I've spread a little light. If you also feel like you have a light inside you, don't hide it under a bushel - instead, cherish it, nourish it, and share it, just like Roald said. Take it from me: if it's good enough for the kids, it's good enough for us grown-ups.
"A person who has good thoughts cannot ever be ugly. You can have a wonky nose and a crooked mouth and a double chin and sticky-out teeth, but if you have good thoughts they will shine out of your face like sunbeams and you will always look lovely."Carry this thought with you like a charm and always feel your own beauty within. Inner beauty never goes unnoticed. Call it a glow, an aura, whatever you like - it emanates something enchanting and contagious that physical beauty can't rival. I always remember a girl I went to school with who captivated me simply with her serenity and sweetness - she was quiet and shy, and probably thought not many people noticed her, but her loveliness made a huge impression on me. There's no faking genuine goodness - people with pureness of heart make the world a happier place by spreading that warmth to those around them.
Another enduring impression, for entirely the opposite reason, is the worst piece of advice I was ever given: after an encounter that left me feeling a little low, someone said to me, "The problem is you're too nice. If you want to get on in life, you need to stop being so nice." That sentiment was enough to jolt me out of my malaise - "stop being nice"? It's so easy to get cynical and jaded in a world that encourages us to get ahead, and even in that moment I had no intention of being a part of that cycle. As far as I'm concerned, there aren't enough 'nice' people in the world; I hold those precious few very close to me because they make me want to be a better person.
One of my own defining traits is a child-like perspective of life that I've retained - my enjoyment of simple pleasures, my sense of humor, my sense of right and wrong, my discernment of character. Though not always practical, my inner child is an aspect of my character that I've been consciously protective of in my adulthood because it affords me a simplicity of outlook of which we can be so easily robbed. It doesn't necessarily make me a better person, but it does make me happy when my enthusiasm rubs off on others - it makes me feel like I've spread a little light. If you also feel like you have a light inside you, don't hide it under a bushel - instead, cherish it, nourish it, and share it, just like Roald said. Take it from me: if it's good enough for the kids, it's good enough for us grown-ups.
Wednesday, 29 June 2011
Political correctness gets lippy
I paid my local Clinique counter a visit yesterday and got chatting to the manager, who told me that she'd had complaints about the brand's newest range of lipgloss: a chunky crayon called the 'Chubby Stick'. The complaints had come from customers of no particular shape or size, and we could only surmise that they pre-empted any offence that may be caused to individuals who might take it personally - although quite why anyone would compare themselves to a crayon, I don't know. I'd always thought the campaign for that product was particularly cute, and it had never occurred to me that it would offend anyone.I'm the first to jump to the defense of anyone who is being maligned or discriminated against - but in instances like this, surely there would be no issue if someone hadn't created one. A song lyric comes to mind: "don't start nothing, it won't be nothing." Or, as the indignant counter manager so adorably put it, "I'm chubby! I don't mind!"
Saturday, 25 June 2011
Defending Beauty
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| Case in point. |
This attitude is not new to me. Although I've (so far) not been on the receiving end of any overt abuse, I have noticed the derision that some people have for beauty-related pursuits. I've heard an interest in beauty referred to in various contexts as "superficial", "frivolous", "a waste of time", even "unhealthy", and often with a general lack of regard. Being "into your looks" (of which I've been accused) can give rise to pejorative assumptions regarding intelligence and personality, none of which are mutually exclusive.
So why the bad rap?? I don't feel well-placed to comment extensively on the online anti-beauty brigade; such degrees of animosity suggest issues that run too deep to be analyzed homogeneously. My personal view is that there is never an excuse for nastiness or hurtful behaviour - that, over any physical manifestation, is downright ugly. It's an indication of their own self-esteem that these individuals take strength in anonymity and numbers - but then, I suppose that's human nature. I do have a few insights based on my interactions, not all of which have been negative, but revealing nonetheless.
My worst experiences have been with male colleagues who have exhibited an obvious disdain for me, while simultaneously taking over-familiar liberties that violate professional boundaries. Evidently, sometimes being well-presented is the equivalent of jumping out of a cake clad in a bikini - nothing new there, but a girl can hope for progress. Another familiar theme is hostility arising as a result of a perceived threat - to what, I'm not certain, but it almost always seems misinformed and misdirected.
Other experiences have been much more endearing; for example, when I worked at a makeup counter I encountered women who didn't take an interest in their appearance simply because they didn't know how. I met some working women and tired mothers who were often just grateful to have a seat and to let someone fuss over them, but were almost without exception thrilled with the "transformation" - in fact, little more than a few touch-ups that enhanced their own natural beauty. The candid chats that took place during these exchanges revealed that sometimes, our circumstances can consume us not only psychologically and spiritually, but also physically to the extent where we feel robbed of our right to beauty. Who can't relate to that? We all have areas of our lives that are either beyond our control or hard to cope with, and while external enhancements aren't a cure-all, they can certainly help to lift our spirits even when we feel overwhelmed.
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| Girl at Mirror by Norman Rockwell |
Finally, I'll leave you with a humdinger: isn't it the case that beauty only makes us feel bad when it reminds us of something we're not happy about? For example, two of the most beautiful things I saw today were Rosie Huntington-Whiteley, and a cheesecake. I'm sad to say that both made me feel like crap. I can recognize these feelings as a projection of my image issues and guilt (yes, I ate the cheesecake), although it's a hard pill to swallow; I would hope that if I ever met Rosie, I wouldn't make her feel bad just because she is gorgeous and I can't say 'no' to cake - or 'yes' to the treadmill, for that matter. I have to work on what makes me feel beautiful, inside and out, and enjoy the beauty all around me. Then I intend to have my cake and eat it, too.
*from article 'The UK Beauty Industry During the Recession' http://blog.simonjersey.com/beauty-news/the-uk-beauty-industry-during-the-recession/
Wednesday, 8 June 2011
The Beauty of a Moment
I took the train home from London this evening. Public transport in the city is not something I enjoy, so I approached the train with a customary weary resignation - if I was lucky, I'd find a seat in the post-work crush - and looked forward to leaving the urban grime behind. To my surprise, the train was relatively empty so I nabbed myself a coveted 4-seater, put my bag on the seat next to me and my refreshments on the large table in front of me; I made myself comfortable. As the train pulled out of the station, I looked out at the towerblocks that I always find so ugly, only to be blinded by the setting sun.
The whole effect was glorious - I had a seat, a snack, and the sunset in my eyes. Through such simplicity of circumstance, my default frown had within moments been altered to a contented smile.
I often experience the most profound beauty in totally arbitrary moments like this one. The wonder of this beauty is that it finds you. These moments are so delightful precisely because they can't be orchestrated. You can only allow yourself to become more susceptible to these random instances that flutter past by simply opening your eyes; I've so often experienced the revelation of putting down my phone, laptop or work and suddenly seeing the world before me, and witnessing the magical happenstances that occur when we're not looking. It could be a sight, a smell, a sound – or best of all, an intoxicating marriage of all three – that can pass us by in a fleeting moment yet leave an indelible, mood-transforming impression.
On the whole, I find the greatest pleasure in simplicity. I'm no Zen master and probably guiltier than most of letting minor irritations get the better of me, but I do know the beauty of how trivial matters can be put into perspective by the purity of a moment. While we struggle behind the wheels of our lives to engineer situations and outcomes, the Universe is at play, simply and beautifully, all around us. The most natural results can be the most stunning, and every time nature reminds me of this I'm inspired to apply the lesson to my own life. And so it goes on, again and again :)
The whole effect was glorious - I had a seat, a snack, and the sunset in my eyes. Through such simplicity of circumstance, my default frown had within moments been altered to a contented smile.
I often experience the most profound beauty in totally arbitrary moments like this one. The wonder of this beauty is that it finds you. These moments are so delightful precisely because they can't be orchestrated. You can only allow yourself to become more susceptible to these random instances that flutter past by simply opening your eyes; I've so often experienced the revelation of putting down my phone, laptop or work and suddenly seeing the world before me, and witnessing the magical happenstances that occur when we're not looking. It could be a sight, a smell, a sound – or best of all, an intoxicating marriage of all three – that can pass us by in a fleeting moment yet leave an indelible, mood-transforming impression.
On the whole, I find the greatest pleasure in simplicity. I'm no Zen master and probably guiltier than most of letting minor irritations get the better of me, but I do know the beauty of how trivial matters can be put into perspective by the purity of a moment. While we struggle behind the wheels of our lives to engineer situations and outcomes, the Universe is at play, simply and beautifully, all around us. The most natural results can be the most stunning, and every time nature reminds me of this I'm inspired to apply the lesson to my own life. And so it goes on, again and again :)
Monday, 30 May 2011
Beauty Basics - the Skinny on Skincare
When it comes to looking and feeling beautiful, the idea of feeling happy in your own skin is consistently a winner. The notion can be applied figuratively to express a person's confidence from within, but for the purpose of this post I'll be interpreting it literally. Good skincare is one of the most basic measures that we can take to look and feel good, and an effective regime is vital to the health of your skin.
The global skincare industry is valued at around $43billion per year and constant innovations, diversifying demographics and the increasing threat of environmental aggressors will ensure that the industry continues to grow. Our obsession with skincare suggests that consumers are experts when it comes to their own skin - however, it seems more likely that the over-abundance of choice bombards consumers to such an extent that we're left confused and misled as to what our skin really needs. Being a sucker for gimmicks myself, my own skincare regime has been achieved through a process of trial and error and I've found that the most effective way of caring for my skin is by stripping the process down to basics. Here are my tips for a kind and simple approach to topical skincare:
1. Know your skin
When answering questions about skincare from friends or customers, I've been gobsmacked by how many people are unfamiliar with their skin type. This is the most basic and essential step to tailoring your own skincare regime. Celebrities are always endorsing products they can't live without, but these recommendations are useless without knowing their skin type and there's no guarantee they'll work for the rest of us. Take a skin type test online, or pay attention to which products aggravate your skin, identify any common ingredients and eliminate them. For example, if you react to oils, replace them with water- or aloe-based products and see how you get on.
2. Stick to what works
If you find a method, product or ingredient that agrees with your skin, don't be tempted to deviate. I can tell you from experience that it's usually not worth it, and a waste of money to boot - whenever it happens to me, I always end up going back to what I was using in the first place and my skin thanks me for it.
3. Keep it simple
Too much fussing is a sure way to aggravate your skin; over-cleansing can strip skin of its natural moisture, upset its balance and lead to excess oil production and breakouts. You can't change your skin type, so follow a gentle regime that respects what your skin does naturally:
1) Cleanse - soap- and oil-free, packed with antioxidants
2) Tone - alcohol-free (unless you have very oily skin), with caring ingredients that won't strip the skin
3) Treat - targeted treatments for concerns like blemishes, etc.
4) Moisturize - with SPF for day and a richer formula for night
5) Exfoliate - non-abrasive scrub or peel, once or twice a week
Where possible, stick to one range or use products that share common ingredients that agree with your skin.
5. Look out for triggers
Pay attention to ingredients that commonly aggravate skin, and monitor how yours reacts. The usual suspects are oils, fragrances and preservatives - many brands have ranges that are free from all these ingredients, so they are increasingly easy to avoid. Other 'bad' ingredients include:
* Sodium laureth sulfate and sodium lauryl sulfate (SLS), the lathering ingredients found in soaps and shampoos. Look out for these sufates in case your skin is sensitive to them.
* Bismuth oxychloride, a common ingredient in mineral makeup. Although minerals are supposed to be natural and kind to our skin, this ingredient is widely used as a 'bulking' product and many people are sensitive to it. Particularly in hot climates, it can cause inflammation and breakouts.
(You can find a list of chemical irritants found in skincare products here.)
7. Scrub kindly
Exfoliation is essential to keeping skin clear and promoting cell regeneration, but be careful that the scrubs you are using don't damage your skin. I favor exfoliators in liquid form, like glycolic and lactic acids. These are far less abrasive on the skin than natural exfoliators, commonly made from ground up husks and seeds that can scratch the skin. If you prefer scrubs, use synthetic exfoliators - microdermabrasion is popular and not damaging to the skin if used infrequently. 'Two-step' systems, comprising a microdermabrasion scrub and an acid peel to be used together, are available for DIY facials.
8. Clean your tools
It might seem easy to overlook, but cleaning your makeup brushes is a no-brainer when it comes to skincare. Brushes and sponges covered in makeup, particularly cream- and liquid-based products, are a delightful breeding ground for nasties. Why spend so much time and effort removing the muck and bacteria from your skin if you're just going to slap it back on? Clean your foundation brushes every day ( I wash them at the same time I take off my makeup at night) and your powder brushes weekly - if you don't have a brush cleaner, your facial cleanser or sulfate-free soap (see #5), like baby shampoo, will do. Also avoid dipping used brushes back into cream products - you can scrape out foundation or concealer with the other end of your brush and use the back of your hand as a palette.
Although it's tempting to try every new product that comes out, sometimes we can get the best idea of how to care for our skin by following the tried-and-tested methods of people who share our skin. I've learned a lot from my mother, who has incredible smooth, glowing skin - even at almost 60, there's not a line in sight and I can't remember the last time she went for a facial or bought an expensive product. If I know what's good for me, I'll follow her lead - my mother knows what works for her, and she also learned it from her mother.
The global skincare industry is valued at around $43billion per year and constant innovations, diversifying demographics and the increasing threat of environmental aggressors will ensure that the industry continues to grow. Our obsession with skincare suggests that consumers are experts when it comes to their own skin - however, it seems more likely that the over-abundance of choice bombards consumers to such an extent that we're left confused and misled as to what our skin really needs. Being a sucker for gimmicks myself, my own skincare regime has been achieved through a process of trial and error and I've found that the most effective way of caring for my skin is by stripping the process down to basics. Here are my tips for a kind and simple approach to topical skincare:
1. Know your skin
When answering questions about skincare from friends or customers, I've been gobsmacked by how many people are unfamiliar with their skin type. This is the most basic and essential step to tailoring your own skincare regime. Celebrities are always endorsing products they can't live without, but these recommendations are useless without knowing their skin type and there's no guarantee they'll work for the rest of us. Take a skin type test online, or pay attention to which products aggravate your skin, identify any common ingredients and eliminate them. For example, if you react to oils, replace them with water- or aloe-based products and see how you get on.
2. Stick to what works
If you find a method, product or ingredient that agrees with your skin, don't be tempted to deviate. I can tell you from experience that it's usually not worth it, and a waste of money to boot - whenever it happens to me, I always end up going back to what I was using in the first place and my skin thanks me for it.
3. Keep it simple
Too much fussing is a sure way to aggravate your skin; over-cleansing can strip skin of its natural moisture, upset its balance and lead to excess oil production and breakouts. You can't change your skin type, so follow a gentle regime that respects what your skin does naturally:
1) Cleanse - soap- and oil-free, packed with antioxidants
2) Tone - alcohol-free (unless you have very oily skin), with caring ingredients that won't strip the skin
3) Treat - targeted treatments for concerns like blemishes, etc.
4) Moisturize - with SPF for day and a richer formula for night
5) Exfoliate - non-abrasive scrub or peel, once or twice a week
Where possible, stick to one range or use products that share common ingredients that agree with your skin.
4. Know what you're using
Our skin is the often-unwilling recipient of countless new products that promise results in increasingly innovative ways that the consumer can't really understand. Manufacturers spend a lot of money researching how to tempt consumers, and products are marketed to us with exciting words like 'complex' or 'technology'. Personally, I don't want to put a computer on my face - I trust products that tell me what's actually in them. Even products that boast active natural ingredients can be misleading - often close examination of the labels reveals 35 obscure chemical names with that particular fruit concentrate very low on the list. I'm a big fan of customer reviews, and always get the low-down on any product I want to try - sites like Beautylish and Makeupalley are great because you can filter reviews by skin type to get an idea of how suitable a product will be for yours.5. Look out for triggers
Pay attention to ingredients that commonly aggravate skin, and monitor how yours reacts. The usual suspects are oils, fragrances and preservatives - many brands have ranges that are free from all these ingredients, so they are increasingly easy to avoid. Other 'bad' ingredients include:
* Sodium laureth sulfate and sodium lauryl sulfate (SLS), the lathering ingredients found in soaps and shampoos. Look out for these sufates in case your skin is sensitive to them.
* Bismuth oxychloride, a common ingredient in mineral makeup. Although minerals are supposed to be natural and kind to our skin, this ingredient is widely used as a 'bulking' product and many people are sensitive to it. Particularly in hot climates, it can cause inflammation and breakouts.
(You can find a list of chemical irritants found in skincare products here.)
6. Use SPF
If good skincare is an insurance policy against future damage, you'd be taking out the premium package by using SPF. I read recently that sun damage increases aging by 70% - it can cause melanoma, which leads to cancer, and loss of elasticity, which leads to sagging. Being sun-savvy is being skin-savvy.Exfoliation is essential to keeping skin clear and promoting cell regeneration, but be careful that the scrubs you are using don't damage your skin. I favor exfoliators in liquid form, like glycolic and lactic acids. These are far less abrasive on the skin than natural exfoliators, commonly made from ground up husks and seeds that can scratch the skin. If you prefer scrubs, use synthetic exfoliators - microdermabrasion is popular and not damaging to the skin if used infrequently. 'Two-step' systems, comprising a microdermabrasion scrub and an acid peel to be used together, are available for DIY facials.
8. Clean your tools
It might seem easy to overlook, but cleaning your makeup brushes is a no-brainer when it comes to skincare. Brushes and sponges covered in makeup, particularly cream- and liquid-based products, are a delightful breeding ground for nasties. Why spend so much time and effort removing the muck and bacteria from your skin if you're just going to slap it back on? Clean your foundation brushes every day ( I wash them at the same time I take off my makeup at night) and your powder brushes weekly - if you don't have a brush cleaner, your facial cleanser or sulfate-free soap (see #5), like baby shampoo, will do. Also avoid dipping used brushes back into cream products - you can scrape out foundation or concealer with the other end of your brush and use the back of your hand as a palette.
9. Mother knows best
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| My beautiful Mama |
10. Love the skin you're in
There's only so much that we can do for our skin, and sometimes problems will persist. In these cases, the best that we can do is to care for it gently and promote its recovery. Treating it aggressively and trying to hide imperfections under layers of makeup will only aggravate the issues, as will worrying excessively - stress can reflect outwardly by taking a toll on your skin. Sometimes your skin is like a teenager who just needs to get the behaviour out of its system before settling down by itself. Just know you're doing the best you can and try to embrace your skin as it is, and there's a good chance you'll look and feel better.
Sunday, 22 May 2011
Beauty Around the World - India
One of my favorite aspects of traveling is exploring the varying ideals of beauty held in different cultures. This will be my first instalment in a series on beauty around the world - my perspective is based on my own observations and experience, so I welcome further insight from readers.
I've spent the past year between the UK and Asia, and I love observing how concepts of beauty can vary from place to place. There are some common themes - for example, everybody is keeping up with the Kardashians, and fair skin is an ideal throughout South Asia - but a place's history, culture and ethnicity can have a more enduring influence on concepts of beauty than popular ideals. I remember having a discussion with someone in the UK who felt that the ideal for curvier women in some cultures was dated, or even wrong - they hadn't caught up with what was now fashionable - and while in some places that may be the case and ideals are changing, on the whole many societies have standards that are too entrenched to be affected by trends.
I find that refreshing in a way because sometimes I wonder to what extent the standards of beauty that we - say in the UK and US - uphold are what we ourselves find beautiful rather than what we are told is now beautiful. Beauty ideals seem to change all the time based on what's fashionable - the androgynous waif in the 60s, feminine glamour in the 70s, powerful amazonian the 80s, emaciated heroin chic in the 90s - each of which had a specific body type. Beauty in the 21st century seems to be dictated by popular culture more than ever, often with a worrying trend for the super-skinny and general obsessiveness.
I've been coming to India since I was a baby and some ideals have proved to be timeless. For example, the desirability of fair skin is a staple of Indian beauty - brands like 'Fair and Lovely' have been around for decades, and in recent years global brands have jumped on the bandwagon with their own fairness lines marketed specifically to the Asian market. I can't imagine this is an ideal that will ever go out of fashion in India - it's far too deeply-rooted in Indian culture, not to mention that now it's an extremely lucrative industry. On the plus side, it also means that women here are vigilant about protecting their skin from sun damage so it could be seen as a healthy pursuit in that respect.
Another concept of beauty that is inherently Indian is modesty - here, it's still a virtue. Except in particularly liberal sectors of society, clothes are never too revealing and public behaviour adheres to underlying moral codes that belie India's socio-economic progression. Even in the public eye, the most successful Bollywood stars are those who are effortlessly demure and classy. Ideals remain similarly traditional for physical beauty. Even though the skinny trend has gained some popularity, a 'womanly' figure - large bust, curvy hips and rounded tummy - still holds strong mass appeal.
When I come to India, I automatically adjust my appearance to suit Indian sensibilities and weather. The way I dress becomes looser (in a structural, not moral sense!) and more covering, and my makeup is similarly altered - in such hot weather it's impractical to maintain a shine- and blemish-free complexion with heavy makeup. Mainly for the health of my skin, I prefer to simply embrace the environment by sticking to minimal makeup (including essential SPF) and I find that most of the women around me seem to adopt a similar approach. Given that luxury branding is a rapidly-growing industry in India, not least in the cosmetics sector, I'll be interested to see what impact this will have on Indian women's attitudes to practicing beauty.
For now, natural beauty is still widely favoured - it doesn't hurt that Indian women are ethnically blessed with beautiful strong hair and nails, and they make the most of their natural attributes through immaculate self-maintenance. As well as a strong ethic for health and well-being, beauty parlours are everywhere and affordable so it's commonplace for women here to have long, shiny hair and neatly manicured nails. To my eternal disappointment, I didn't inherit the Indian genes for thick hair and long nails but but I'll leave you with an Indian ad for Dove shampoo which will illustrate my point - granted, these are models, but Dove is a brand that celebrates natural beauty and I know enough Indian women with amazing hair to confirm that this isn't too far off the mark.
I've spent the past year between the UK and Asia, and I love observing how concepts of beauty can vary from place to place. There are some common themes - for example, everybody is keeping up with the Kardashians, and fair skin is an ideal throughout South Asia - but a place's history, culture and ethnicity can have a more enduring influence on concepts of beauty than popular ideals. I remember having a discussion with someone in the UK who felt that the ideal for curvier women in some cultures was dated, or even wrong - they hadn't caught up with what was now fashionable - and while in some places that may be the case and ideals are changing, on the whole many societies have standards that are too entrenched to be affected by trends.
I find that refreshing in a way because sometimes I wonder to what extent the standards of beauty that we - say in the UK and US - uphold are what we ourselves find beautiful rather than what we are told is now beautiful. Beauty ideals seem to change all the time based on what's fashionable - the androgynous waif in the 60s, feminine glamour in the 70s, powerful amazonian the 80s, emaciated heroin chic in the 90s - each of which had a specific body type. Beauty in the 21st century seems to be dictated by popular culture more than ever, often with a worrying trend for the super-skinny and general obsessiveness.
I've been coming to India since I was a baby and some ideals have proved to be timeless. For example, the desirability of fair skin is a staple of Indian beauty - brands like 'Fair and Lovely' have been around for decades, and in recent years global brands have jumped on the bandwagon with their own fairness lines marketed specifically to the Asian market. I can't imagine this is an ideal that will ever go out of fashion in India - it's far too deeply-rooted in Indian culture, not to mention that now it's an extremely lucrative industry. On the plus side, it also means that women here are vigilant about protecting their skin from sun damage so it could be seen as a healthy pursuit in that respect.
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| " I like being wholesome. Maybe today being attractive has more to do with the relatability factor." - Katrina Kaif |
Another concept of beauty that is inherently Indian is modesty - here, it's still a virtue. Except in particularly liberal sectors of society, clothes are never too revealing and public behaviour adheres to underlying moral codes that belie India's socio-economic progression. Even in the public eye, the most successful Bollywood stars are those who are effortlessly demure and classy. Ideals remain similarly traditional for physical beauty. Even though the skinny trend has gained some popularity, a 'womanly' figure - large bust, curvy hips and rounded tummy - still holds strong mass appeal.
When I come to India, I automatically adjust my appearance to suit Indian sensibilities and weather. The way I dress becomes looser (in a structural, not moral sense!) and more covering, and my makeup is similarly altered - in such hot weather it's impractical to maintain a shine- and blemish-free complexion with heavy makeup. Mainly for the health of my skin, I prefer to simply embrace the environment by sticking to minimal makeup (including essential SPF) and I find that most of the women around me seem to adopt a similar approach. Given that luxury branding is a rapidly-growing industry in India, not least in the cosmetics sector, I'll be interested to see what impact this will have on Indian women's attitudes to practicing beauty.
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| Keeping cool in India |
For now, natural beauty is still widely favoured - it doesn't hurt that Indian women are ethnically blessed with beautiful strong hair and nails, and they make the most of their natural attributes through immaculate self-maintenance. As well as a strong ethic for health and well-being, beauty parlours are everywhere and affordable so it's commonplace for women here to have long, shiny hair and neatly manicured nails. To my eternal disappointment, I didn't inherit the Indian genes for thick hair and long nails but but I'll leave you with an Indian ad for Dove shampoo which will illustrate my point - granted, these are models, but Dove is a brand that celebrates natural beauty and I know enough Indian women with amazing hair to confirm that this isn't too far off the mark.
Tuesday, 17 May 2011
Beauty is as beauty does
We've all heard those sayings: "beauty is only skin-deep", "beauty is in the eye of the beholder". Clichés? Sure, but many of us find them reassuring too. Sadly, societal expectations and pressures can make it so hard for us to retain confidence in our individual beauty.
I'm pretty sure you're all familiar with - if not afflicted by - the desire to conform to media-endorsed standards, so I won't beat you about the head with it. (Although this is a phenomenon that affects both men and women, I'm only writing it from a female perspective as that's my frame of reference.) I don't want to talk about beauty as we "know" it. What I do want to talk to you about is true beauty, which doesn't lie flat on a page. Beauty is not the one-dimensional image we see in a photograph. Beauty, to me, is fierce, radiant, and unconcerned with what anyone else thinks about beauty. So how about we turn the beauty cliché into a beauty paradox: "beauty doesn't care about beauty".
Personally, I love the aesthetic aspect of beauty. I love my makeup and my products, and it's something that I have a lot of fun with and take a genuine interest in. That said, I think it's also important to aspire to a healthier and more holistic sense of beauty than the mainstream version that's thrust at us every day. I also know there are a lot of people who are confident in themselves, which is exactly what this post is about. I'm just writing this for anyone who might agree that there are ways of feeling uniquely beautiful that could free us from constantly comparing ourselves to cover girls.
I'm lucky that I have a lot of strong and inspiring women in my life, who are also incredibly beautiful. Although they're all so different, one thing they share is a confidence in their own beauty - physical or otherwise. Who they are inside shows on the outside, and they radiate. Let me introduce you to some of these women:
The Warrior
She is the very model of three-dimensional beauty. She goes through life kicking ass and she takes no prisoners; there is nothing she can't do, physically, mentally or intellectually, and she can scare the crap out of people. But incredibly, she is as soft as she is hard; she is kind and generous, and stunning in her femininity. Most importantly, she knows all this about herself and she embraces it, and she's one of the most beautiful women I know.
The CEO
Talk about an empowered woman. She built her empire from nothing, and did it with both barrels. Her brains, self-belief and tenacity made her hugely successful in a man's world, where she never concealed or defended her feminine attributes and she welcomed those that underestimated her so she could prove them wrong. She is the busiest and most powerful woman I know - but she still makes time for the salon and is groomed to perfection.
The Mother
My friend has always been beautiful, but I've never seen her happier or more peaceful than she is as a mother. Even though she has her troubles, the sense of purpose she now has changed her outlook, and how she sees herself. It's like her pregnancy glow never left her, and she's a perfect example of inner calm and confidence reflecting outwardly. She's the most beautiful I've ever seen her.
The Creative
She is always eager to learn and to develop, and her motivation is inspiring. She is absolutely gorgeous but has zero interest in maintaining herself aesthetically, preferring to focus on other more rewarding pursuits. She doesn't wear a scrap of makeup but still has men walking into lamposts, because she is so confident about who she is and how she presents herself, which is so uniquely her.
These are just a handful of the women I know who've challenged my superficial perspective of beauty. Actually, I know very few women who aren't beautiful so there are lots more where these came from. This post could just as easily have been about you, so go sing some Christina Aguilera - I had 'Beautiful' in mind, but go for 'Dirrty' if that's what makes you feel good - and feel beautiful, peeps!
I'm pretty sure you're all familiar with - if not afflicted by - the desire to conform to media-endorsed standards, so I won't beat you about the head with it. (Although this is a phenomenon that affects both men and women, I'm only writing it from a female perspective as that's my frame of reference.) I don't want to talk about beauty as we "know" it. What I do want to talk to you about is true beauty, which doesn't lie flat on a page. Beauty is not the one-dimensional image we see in a photograph. Beauty, to me, is fierce, radiant, and unconcerned with what anyone else thinks about beauty. So how about we turn the beauty cliché into a beauty paradox: "beauty doesn't care about beauty".
Personally, I love the aesthetic aspect of beauty. I love my makeup and my products, and it's something that I have a lot of fun with and take a genuine interest in. That said, I think it's also important to aspire to a healthier and more holistic sense of beauty than the mainstream version that's thrust at us every day. I also know there are a lot of people who are confident in themselves, which is exactly what this post is about. I'm just writing this for anyone who might agree that there are ways of feeling uniquely beautiful that could free us from constantly comparing ourselves to cover girls.
I'm lucky that I have a lot of strong and inspiring women in my life, who are also incredibly beautiful. Although they're all so different, one thing they share is a confidence in their own beauty - physical or otherwise. Who they are inside shows on the outside, and they radiate. Let me introduce you to some of these women:
The Warrior
She is the very model of three-dimensional beauty. She goes through life kicking ass and she takes no prisoners; there is nothing she can't do, physically, mentally or intellectually, and she can scare the crap out of people. But incredibly, she is as soft as she is hard; she is kind and generous, and stunning in her femininity. Most importantly, she knows all this about herself and she embraces it, and she's one of the most beautiful women I know.
The CEO
Talk about an empowered woman. She built her empire from nothing, and did it with both barrels. Her brains, self-belief and tenacity made her hugely successful in a man's world, where she never concealed or defended her feminine attributes and she welcomed those that underestimated her so she could prove them wrong. She is the busiest and most powerful woman I know - but she still makes time for the salon and is groomed to perfection.
The Mother
My friend has always been beautiful, but I've never seen her happier or more peaceful than she is as a mother. Even though she has her troubles, the sense of purpose she now has changed her outlook, and how she sees herself. It's like her pregnancy glow never left her, and she's a perfect example of inner calm and confidence reflecting outwardly. She's the most beautiful I've ever seen her.
The Creative
She is always eager to learn and to develop, and her motivation is inspiring. She is absolutely gorgeous but has zero interest in maintaining herself aesthetically, preferring to focus on other more rewarding pursuits. She doesn't wear a scrap of makeup but still has men walking into lamposts, because she is so confident about who she is and how she presents herself, which is so uniquely her.
These are just a handful of the women I know who've challenged my superficial perspective of beauty. Actually, I know very few women who aren't beautiful so there are lots more where these came from. This post could just as easily have been about you, so go sing some Christina Aguilera - I had 'Beautiful' in mind, but go for 'Dirrty' if that's what makes you feel good - and feel beautiful, peeps!
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